What is my real job?

I am a work at home, business owning wife and mother of 3. Nothing chaotic like 3 under 3… I have a teenager, a 5 year old and an infant. I am the duty master. I am the czar of jobs. The empress of tasks. I am the mom.

Everyone in the house has their daily and weekly duties. We have our “family jobs” that we’ve each been designated. Typical, right? I’m sure it is. I’m sure my entire thought process today is just like a million other families, but to me, its a unique situation in my life and I’m trying to figure out how I let it get to where it is.

Now here is where my train of thought fits in today…

The cleaning ladies are coming. YAY!  It is a proven fact that I am a pack rat and a slob about daily nit picking and dusting and all. I’m an anal organizer, but I’m also a habitual pile maker. If you actually read above, you know that my family is probably an unlikely source for the deep cleaning types of duties. So yes, every two weeks my favorite ladies arrive with their mops and dust clothes and they tackle my corners that would otherwise be neglected for most of the year.

With this routine, I run around the house the morning of cleaning day, picking up odds and ends, hopefully just gathering things that have been left out throughout the week so the cleaning can begin. Today I realized, I am no the job manager, I am the job doer with helpers that ponder helping… when reminded. I am doing all the jobs. The jobs are getting partially done. However, it’s only 8:30am and I have… taken out the trash, swept the floor, picked up toys in 4 rooms, cleaned 2 bathrooms 1/2 way, laundry, kitchen counters, dishes, homework space pick up… and the list goes on. I’ve only been awake and dressed for just over an hour. None of those jobs are mine – ok, washing the clothes is. No no, as a mom, they’re always mine, I mean, had everyone done their their jobs as they should, I would have been writing a completely differently blog… 45 minutes ago.

How and when did it get this way? When did half a job become ok and when did I sign that agreement? Am i just a bad example? My kids don’t sit around doodling or managing their websites either… so what happened?

I like being in charge, I like making the decisions (sometimes) and formulating plans, guiding and coordinating. This is out of control.  No wonder people ask how I get so much done in a day – I don’t know either.

So the now plan of action… resign or go on strike? I’ve done the strike thing before. I promised to not cook meals if the kitchen weren’t cleaned after meals. That worked, but then I got hungry.

I’ve boycotted bathroom cleaning – did you know boys pee on the floor? That didn’t work, they still pee on the floor. I’ve threatened to just do all the jobs as a guilt trip tactic – everyone says “no, don’t do that” but then the excitement for the argument ends and what am I stuck with? That’s a dumb move.

I have no answer, but I’m pretty sure something will change… Good thing it’s just me and my biz — can you imagine the doodles that would result? Wow!

Tuesday's Topic: family time on your toes

I just got back from a long day of family bonding and walking. Yes, walking. Our family vacation is a sight seeing holiday around Vancouver, BC. and we managed to spend the entire day today walking — way more than we intended. We visited Stanley park, an enormous public park filled with a huge array of activities. We managed to walk 5/8 of the perimeter as well as visit the miniature railroad and Vancouver aquarium. We even saw a 28 day old Beluga whale – amazing!

We continued to walk the seawall down to The Lookout… a build with a look out near the top – similar to Seattle’s Space Needle. We arrived right before sunset; I’m hoping I caught some great photos. Then we walked down into Gastown for dinner at the Old Spaghetti Factory. We had a so-so meal as far as the food goes, but a fabulous family time experience… we needed a place we could flop down and just enjoy some food

Then, we planned on taking a cap back to the hotel, but instead, due to third party ATMs and US bank cards not coordinating, we walked all the way back to our hotel on north Robson.

Like I said, much more walking than we had planned, but a fabulous day with each other. I can’t remember the last time we spent so much time with no one and nothing but ourselves.

I don’t think we need to plan a walking tour of some unknown plan to relive this same kind of quality time… but I do think a causal day at the local park would do just fine. You should try it too… it’s quite lovely.

You know me, I’m all about having an excuse to make another sunshiney day…

Smiley Sunflower

Tuesday's Topic: Family bonding and hot dogs

Welcome to July and Happy Tuesday! Bonus, it’s a brand new month AND we get to eat hot dogs by the pound for weeks now. Well… at least my family will be

In the not too distant future I will be venturing off onto a road trip with my 3 children (and adorably dorky husband, of course). We’re traveling to visit family and have a little vacation time together. I love road trips and I really enjoy spending unscheduled, unplanned, unorganized time with my family. It’s nice to just “wing it”. We discover new things together, explore, maybe we’re not extremely adventurous, but we do try to be open to finding new unexpected things around occasional corners.

I’m hoping we’ll find some neat stops that aren’t necessarily “on the map”.

I’ll tell you about them as I find them.

Bless America with the Statue of Liberty Penguin

I hope you enjoy your July 4th – and if you’re celebrating, stay safe!