Comments on: How do you adjust to the change?

By: southbeachannie

southbeachannie — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:20:14 +0000

Thank you for your insight Jen. Your last statement really strikes a chord with me. I try to live by the following: Embrace change or change yourself!

By: southbeachannie

southbeachannie — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:20:14 +0000

Thank you for your insight Jen. Your last statement really strikes a chord with me. I try to live by the following: Embrace change or change yourself!

By: Udi Schlessinger

Udi Schlessinger — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 21:10:25 +0000

I completely agree!

There's a saying in a movie I really liked that was quite a box office failure. The movie is called Strange Days, and it goes like this: "Memories are meant to fade. They're designed that way for a reason."

I think this relates to change. We're supposed to adapt to change, designed to let go of things. As you say, one can even view this as an evolutionary necessity (a large part of my academic background). If we can't adapt, how will we deal with new situations?

By: jgoode

jgoode — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:25:19 +0000

maybe missing things we like is supposed to be a motivator to make new things we like? i've moved a lot too… it's only been since I was married that i've stayed in one place for more than a few years at a time – guess i like where i am… could also be i'm tired of unpacking lol

By: Udi Schlessinger

Udi Schlessinger — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:41:25 +0000

I like change (hey, I lived in 3 different continents and moved a zillion times), but then again, really miss the way certain things used to be. Even now I still look at the Manhattan skyline and miss the Twin Towers.

By: jgoode

jgoode — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:30:09 +0000

Thank you Udi – more so than my liking things to stay the same, I like to be in control of what and how things do change. It's a hard and bewildering experience when we realize there isn't anything we can do except roll with it.

Time travel… even then, things change because we'd go back to a place we'd been before with the knowledge we have now so our perspective has changed and our list of life experiences has grown. Maybe this is why I'm more a fan of the Stargate concept than the specific time travel concept – exploring regardless of time sounds pretty cool to me.

By: Udi Schlessinger

Udi Schlessinger — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 05:10:47 +0000

Excellent post, Jen!

(I worked so hard to edit the comment to fit in Facebook when I could've left it here. Aww man

Change is hard to deal with, but alas, we have no choice. No matter what we do, things will change. Kids will grow. Friends will drift apart. We lose loved ones. The world itself changes.

A part of growing up is learning to accept it. Everyone must go through this though for some it is harder than others. For me personally it was hard to see some of my best friends drift apart. But I've learned to – it comes with age. Whether we want to or not, change is maybe the only constant in our lives.

I'm a big fan of the time travel genre (and people who know me realize the extent that goes). Personally I think our society's infatuation with it (think about all the time travel movies: back to the future, the time traveler's wife, etc) is in a way our method of refusing to accept change. By having a plot device that enables us to go back to the way things were, we never need to confront change – and that's the appeal. Through the protagonist, we go back in time and everything is exactly as it always was. No change at all.